Bathhouse Hands

It might be a bit odd to write about hands at the bathhouse, so this review is intended to be focused on just a couple of points. Though also recognizing the immense amount of overlap involved when describing first contact in a male only sauna.

Intentional contact in the baths almost always starts with a hand, yours or a potential partner's. The notable exception to this fact involves a mouth, generally one surrounding your cock in a glorious wave of pure bliss. Or your mouth doing the same to a stranger. Such wonderfully explicit initial sexual contact is not common, though truly addictive in the context of meeting a man at a male only sauna. With group sex, that the third or fourth man might go down on you immediately is not quite the same thing as directly starting to have oral sex with an individual.

This mainly concerns public, though discrete, meeting areas like steam baths or dark rooms. Glory holes follow their own logic, one that is extremely straightforward. When a door is open in a booth, the position of the man inside on the platform is the main orientation. Hands have a major role in the open areas, where anonymous contact is generally desired but not so explicitly as at a glory hole or by being inside or entering a booth.

Bathhouses exist for visitors to have sex with men, knowing they are surrounded by others there for exactly the same reason. Their history stretches back thousands of years since naked men in a private space cannot help but take advantage of what becomes possible inside one. Such as letting a stranger run their hand over your inner thigh, feeling how your cock grows as you start doing the same to them.

A number of visitors do not necessarily want to acknowledge that, even when naked and available in the dimness of a steam bath, touching their cock in anticipation of anonymous sex. A few may be here their first time, a few more may never have been at this particular bathhouse before. Some men, likely in a nod to a fig leaf of pretense concerning their male sexual desires, do not initiate anything.

That group encompasses a variety of types, including some who do nothing, which I find personally boring. Possibly thinking if they do nothing, that means they are not really there to have sex with a man, though in all honestly, some men really do simply expect to be pleasured with absolutely no attempt to share it.

Luckily, many of those initially disinterested men respond quickly, often eagerly, as if only waiting for some sort of permission. That group includes a number of husbands, there being no reason to remove a wedding ring at a male only sauna. I never did, and gold shines well in dim light.

A number of bi men go to the baths, and though being married is not really a reliable indicator, it provides a certain foundation in determining that a number of my partners are bi like myself. The reason is simple, a cock being as fantastic a sex organ as anything a woman offers. In my case, that started in my teenage years jacking off with a friend. After getting hard, watching each other cock stroking was how we came together, instead of the pictures in Playboy or Penthouse. We never touched, so it was decades later to learn how sexy a cock is to play with, suck, or get fucked by.

How many married men have only visited a couple of times and thus still uncertain about what will happen this time is impossible to judge. Middle aged curiosity may have been what attracted them the first time, but after experiencing how amazing sex with other men can be, few of the straight husbands can resist returning. Possibly believing themselves completely 'straight' even inside a male only sauna. No wife can equal having four strangers using their hands and mouths on you, being expertly sucked and rimmed at the same time while holding two hard cocks, belonging to the man kissing your neck and the other sucking your nipple.

Gay sex is what happens at a gay sauna, but some men simply prefer avoiding that intoxicating reality. Obviously, the more often such men return, the less important such thinking becomes as they keep sinking in an ocean of pleasure. Whether married or with a girlfriend, men who have tasted the delights of such a sauna know that a woman can not offer the same style of abandoned male pleasure, regardless of how fantastic fucking their pussy feels.

For the hesitant, once a hand touches them, there is no reason to pretend about what they want, now being offered without needing to be active. Often, as I am not one to immediately start touching a cock, their hand reaches for and finds mine first. By then, the seductively addictive bathhouse spell has already started to take control, regardless of what they might have originally thought about not getting sexually involved with a male.

This sort of self-deception is not exactly common, yet it does explain one style of how hands are used. Combining both invitation and temptation on the part of a man seeking someone to have sex with, in a place where anonymous sex is easily shared.

For me, when entering a dim space, my hands are out, trying to move carefully not to run into someone, especially before my eyes adjust to the dark. Hearing is a poor substitute, especially as normally only pairs or moresomes are making any sound. Clumsy is not the best way to describe the method, though not wrong either. Even after years of practice entering such spaces, it still happens that my first touch is awkwardly abrupt.

Though often rewarded by someone equally eager to start having sex with a stranger. Once inside a steam room or dark room, there is little pretense about how straightforwardly one can start playing with another man - or men. In a dark room, many men are wearing a towel, but that is more for teasing than anything else.

However, not everyone is interested at first contact, so exploring the space with hands out does not always immediately result in a new partner. However, it rarely takes more than a couple of such contacts wandering further before finding someone who wants to play. Unless the space is empty, as can occur, though less frequently in the steam room.

There is also a fleeting style of touch when moving, an invitation easily accepted by simply stopping in place, letting a hand touch you, then roam, often as you start doing the same to his body. The freedom to indulge yourself with strangers who come to the baths to get off becomes ever better the more often you return. Entering a place where cocks rule, surrounded by potential undressed partners who understand why everyone is inside.

After getting familiar with a steam bath or dark room over time, other possibilities on how to use a hand become clearer, learning from what other men do. One does not have to be the one exploring. Lying in wait for opportunity to pass by is effective, especially where the space is narrow. This works best after adjusting to the dimness, standing in a spot that is backlit and where men pass by.

This method allows for more precision when reaching out, without blundering. A light brush works best, to see if they stop. Sometimes, they are the ones to take advantage of your position, which can result in both hands being the first contact. Hands that can slowly tease and tempt as bodies move closer, sinking into the wonderfully mindless bathhouse haze together, getting so slutty.

Men have a wider variety of hands and fingers than what I have noticed by women. A man's hand can be larger or smaller than mine, fingers gentler or rougher, and compared to women, as a rule stronger. These differences do not really say anything about a man's skill when using their hands, but men and women are more distinct when looking at their hands compared to how a mouth feels so universally wonderful, male or female.

An approach to an individual man is simple, leading to either acceptance or refusal. Couples are more complicated. Some couples do not want to be disturbed, which I understand, as being focused on one person can be intensely satisfying.

To be clear, though a few men do arrive in pairs at the baths, inside it is extremely unlikely that they remain exclusive. Not impossible, but there are so many places to have sex with each other outside of a male only sauna. While the baths are one of the very few places to joyfully dive into a sea of male sex, submerging in raw overflowing pleasure, losing track of how many mouths have kissed yours or gone down on you, and how many cocks you have pumped or gone down on.

Considering their reputation, seemingly known to everyone male and female, two men do not enter the baths together for the first time without an awareness of what occurs inside. An awareness that undoubtedly lured one - or both - to enter originally. And in most cases, one or both have already been introduced to what happens inside, possibly over years of regular visits.

As a result, essentially all couples are distinctly temporary inside a male only sauna, even if they possibly thought they would not participate. A light brushing against a man when he is kissing and grinding cock against his partner is not rude, but without any reaction touching further is not polite. Sometimes, even that temporary and non-committal contact leads to a hand moving to wave you away.

In those fairly common cases where one man is getting head, the results of a similar approach can be quite different and hard to predict. No reaction is not a reason to stop exploring - often a man whose cock is surrounded by a soft wet mouth appreciates having their nipples touched. To the extent that they reach a hand out to start stroking your waiting cock.

Possibly in hope that the man going down on him will share his mouth with another cock, a situation that is definitely one of my hopes too. A situation that makes no difference whether a man or woman is giving head, as it is the other cock that makes this so completely satisfying. Especially when you begin to kiss him in mutual bliss, lost in paradise inside another man's soft wet mouth.

However, others do not want a third person involved when a stranger is going down on them, their refusal being casual to fairly extreme. This being the point where such couples are complicated, because the man giving head can have a very different attitude towards others getting involved.

Not always, but it is easy to slide a hand over a man's head, then lower. Cock suckers also enjoy nipple play. As your hand explores further, you may find their cock hard, often with them jacking off. Your other hand then becomes part of the blow job, gripping a sexy spit covered length as it is swallowed.

The chance of the cock sucker's hand reaching out after the other man has turned down further contact is quite good. This is not necessarily a prelude to a threesome. Sometimes the cock sucker is just ensuring that he will have another cock to go down on after the first man leaves. The incredibly dirty sensation of sliding your cock into a mouth that has just been filled with cum could happen at a swinger club with a woman, though exceedingly rare compared to what regularly happens at the baths.

Obviously, both men in a pair can be happy to start having sex with another man, and when looking at a couple having sex, a hand, or two, may reach out. A hand whose touch is often wonderfully slutty, reflecting their shared state in a way impossible to resist from joining in. This being the main reason for the closeness, hoping to get involved.

The sluttiness grows even better as everyone plays. A bathhouse is private from the outside, but inside it is a public place where male sex is openly displayed, in part to attract other men.

Group sex requires a group, a reality that becomes addictive after encountering its appeal within a bathhouse. Whether it is your hand or a stranger's making initial contact, whether you were the outside one or the one already having sex with others, the invitation is extended for another cock to join in. Sometimes you remain a threesome, but other times a group forms.

Groups beyond threesomes often become greedy, free hands seeking more men to get involved. A hand on a cock is an unmistakable sign, especially when already standing next to a group of men, attracted by what is openly happening. In such cases, the hand bringing you closer conveys the sexual magic, not only welcoming you to merge into pure mutual bliss, but making you utterly unable to resist.

Even more unmistakable is when the hand willingly pulls you, making any need to decide unnecessary, guiding you against another cock or into a waiting mouth. Possibly already filled by the cock of the man drawing you in. By that point, other hands have found you, just as your hands freely explore them.

The reverse also occurs, your hand being the one capturing a new cock, bringing another man into the group as he gets turned on. Sometimes expanding the group, and sometimes finding a replacement for a man that has left. This is particularly relevant in the steam room, as the heat and humidity sets something of a natural time limit.

There is one other use of hands that I cannot explain. A number of men will reach for a cock immediately, and if not hard, move on. This sort of touching is just part of what happens, but it makes no real sense to me. For the sake of completeness regarding this review, consider it a footnote.