My Sister Ch. 02

My bitch of a sister is not so much a bitch anymore.  

She has been good to me for a while since I fell at her house 5 years ago and hurt my knee. She has been better since then. I still get some negative feedback from her but not as much. Has been really concerned about my health and when I had cataract surgery, she was there for me.  

And we recently lost a niece and have been so distraught over it that we have become even closer. I used to think that the pictures of me with family members without my sister in them were just for me but since losing our niece then now I have a new perspective on that. I started sharing with her pictures of what I have because she will make sure they get used because she is the caretaker of most of all the family pictures and the backbone of the family!

I may be old and grey now, but you are never too old to learn about life and things. The things you learn are the things you need in life to make you a better person. You need those learnings! So never think you know everything because you will find out even at an old age that it is not true!

I will always be grateful for her even though she is still controlling but cannot change her no matter what! I will just have to accept her like she is even though she will really and truly never trust me but I am not going to dwell on it. Sisters can be frustrating to a certain extinct, but they are still your sister. But I still think of my brother as being the best brother ever.  

The day I had to drive to my brother's house in a bad storm and had a difficult time seeing was scary but knowing that my sister cared enough to text me to make sure I was alright made me feel good. When I got to my brothers and saw the text and told her where I was, she was so relieved. Even my brother was worried about me too. I am the oldest of the both of them!

I distanced myself away from them when I met my husband-to-be even though I was not trying to. I did distance them cause when I finally got my husband to believe I would never leave him, that was how I distanced myself from my blood family. He had a wife that made him look like the bad person when his wife was the bad person. She even took it from him and gave it to her siblings.

So, she was the bad one to him. I stayed with him till he passed away. I stayed with him for 21 years, give and take a year when we separated at the start. Even though my sister did not go to his funeral, I still loved her.  

She did feel bad after the service was over and I am sure our cousins told her that she was wrong for doing me that way. Her quote then: "I am not going to change my vacation just because your husband passed away!" She said she cried the whole time she was visiting our cousins because of that happening.

Her grandkids run up to me thinking I am their grandmother and even though they are surprised, they don't shy away from me. That makes me feel good! I want to be close to my siblings and their children and grandkids so I'm not going to stop. I may vent on here, but I don't want to change anything about any of my family.

The fact that my sibling can change just a little is a great thing and so will your siblings make you feel like you are on top of the world. So never turn your back on them no matter what they do! They were put there on this earth to teach and love just like you were and that is something you will learn in life like I did!

Thank you for letting me vent on here and hope your family is as special as my family is to me. My sister will always think she is my protector. One statement she told me one time is: "I may be your younger sister, but I will always be your protector so even though our mom is gone, you still need a mother figure, and I am all you got!"

So, if you have a controlling sibling think of this: That sibling may not be who you want him/her to be, but they still love you no matter what! They want you to be the upstanding person that they know you can be. They just want to help you get there even though you may resist them.