How to be a (Virtual) Hotwife Sext

Maybe some basic principles of this would apply to anyone wanting to experiment with sexting but I'd certainly be careful using some of my suggestions here unless your husband has a cuckold fantasy, we're going to be sending some very risky messages and actually intending to seriously dent most mens fragile ego, if he's not comfortable with himself and this desire of his you're definitely going to be on shaky ground at times.

Now what I've found to be the key to these virtual hotwife games is what I learnt from my husbands military experiences in that you want to start well before you make it to the bedroom,

it doesn't matter how ready and willing you both are, you simply can't just start from scratch with no warm up. You want to start a virtual thousand miles away.

You want him coming home, throwing you over his shoulder and carrying you off in true caveman style (if that really is your thing and if it isn't it soon might be because you're about to light the mother of all fires under the ass of your strong confident husband returning from deloyment)

Now i found that i needed to have a "partner" in mind, maybe you don't. If you're like me then it can be anyone you can picture easily, the 50 shades guy, the masked guy in "those" books, even an ex (yes really) Fortunately I live near a local college and have my pick of young studs packing my groceries or pumping my gas for me while my husband works with a guy who's good looking, a womaniser and a total asshole. I've met him a few times and as a bonus my husband KNOWS he's an asshole for sure and can all to easily picture him doing these things.

I've even used the random assholes that we've all had message us at some point through social media, lead them on a whiles then just screenshot the dirty exchange and save it for later.

Remember, non of this is going to be real but the easier it is for you both to visualise then the more effective it's going to be. Disconnect that emotional love for your husband from your animal instincts, if the ideal breeding partner isn't coming to mind try the opposite, the absolute worst (but he's rich, a total bad boy or even simply hung like a horse)

Just a small tip before we get going, use a different messaging app than your regular one for this "virtual hotwifing" stage. This way you can still ask him to pick up milk without spoiling the mood

(If you can work out how to add text to the pictures, all the better. There's YouTube tutorials for all of them on how to do it. I've found that captioned pictures or even videos hit on a whole new level when what he's seeing is reinforced by the words of a simple message right there across the picture, he's forced to think exactly what you want him to think and it'll be burned right into his soul.

Men in general are very visual creatures at the best of times, use that!

Done right this message notification sound is going to be like Pavlovs bell so make it a different app for full effect.

Now for some fun, getting started is always the hard part but don't worry, there really isn't a right or wrong way to do this but definitely use your alternate messaging app for all of this. That app notification sound will very quickly become the whistle that makes all his dogs bark, LOUDLY.

I'll start in a variety of ways, a picture of my fresh Starbucks balanced on my steering wheel with my legs on full display *accidentally* in the shot and caption it with "cute new server, even got a free cookie".

Or a picture of a condom wrapper (magnum size of course) with the caption "server at the gas station was handing these out with every tank".

Or even a picture stolen straight from the internet of some young football player/s from the local college with a caption "just saw the team at the service station, they asked me to be their mascot".

While we might be looking at the cup, he's imagining me wearing a micro skirt in Starbucks. We would be questioning why a magnum condom, he's imagining a young hung stud pumping gas in grey sweatpants and as for the football team, he's already imagining you tied up in the locker room as half time entertainment.

See how easy this is?

You're outside his control, you could be doing ANYTHING and he's powerless to stop it (when in reality, I've done these while still in my pyjamas or on the school run before now, always keep multiple picture saved, he won't be forensically examining them like we might, he WANTS to think these things, he WANTS to suspend his disbelief.

Ah yes, powerless, there's one of those primitive drivers of his

Believe it or not that's probably exactly what he wants. This is the guy that'll fight a bear for you, provide for you, do anything for you and just at this moment there's not a damn thing he can do about anything. Being powerless is a very powerful emotive state for him learn to harness it.

Now add in some messages casually mentioning you're feeling horny today and you wish he was home, you must be ovulating because you could rip his clothes off and do it right there in the car, anything that makes it clear you're one good offer from making a bad decision!

(And there's nothing he can do about it, powerless remember)

Then follow up with maybe another *innocent* picture, a picture of your gym taken from the car with the caption "wish they opened earlier, I need a good workout today" or a picture of a tyre place with a caption "dammit, I got a flat and I have to wait hours for the delivery to arrive" or a selfie taken at the sandwich bar "needed some energy for later".

Now he's (most likely) thinking "omg, she's horny and out in the wild looking for trouble" and that's exactly where we want him, every bad scenario is running through his head right now because you've sent these via your sexting app and he's a virtual thousand miles away powerless to stop what's undoubtedly coming.

If you're stuck at work you can still be just as effective, remember this guy just needs to believe you're upto mischief and there's nothing he can do about it. Boss wants to offer you a promotion? Repair guy is sexier than the diet coke guy? New intern keeps getting flirty? Even a boring office can be a (virtual) hotwifes source of excitement. Just find his biggest triggers and play on them.

You can keep this going for as long or as short as you like, the idea here is you're planting the seed that you're out and about with the captioned pictures and you're as horny as hell with the messages. You're horny and he ain't there basically!

An alternative to this style of build up is something that's become so much of a favorite of mine that if my husband is going to be away for a few days I even have a spare phone to text myself with on the off chance nobody is taking the bait and this is one of the few online recommendations i fully support.

Get yourself on Adult Friend finder or Tinder (or similar, but those are my top two) there is nothing quite as good for your confidence as random men trying desperately to flirt with you. Yes I know all too well that an awful lot of those men are total assholes or pure trolls but I'm not looking for marriage material here, hell I'm not even looking for an actual date.

All I want here is some flirty (or worse, much worse hopefully) screenshots of conversations and with any luck some dick pics (and again or worse hopefully) as material to forward to my husband. Now this is as real as we get and it is absolute dynamite for both of us.

I get a definite boost from it that I never for a moment dreamt I would while my husband (who's effectively a thousand miles away and again HELPLESS to stop it) gets a stream of pictures of some utterly filthy sexting between myself and some random guy I might just be hooking up with at some seedy hotel later. (In his head anyway)

Apply some sensible precautions here, limit your location, change your name, don't show your full face and maybe even get your husband sitting in with you for your first few conversations.

Yes really. It's weird as hell and having your loving husband help you is even weirder but outside of doing this for real in a bar this has to come close to being both the most empowering thing you can do for yourself whilst also being possibly the most disempowering thing he can have done to him / do to himself.

Hell, have HIM pick the guys to begin with, have HIM suggest how to tease these guys (you'll soon learn what HE finds threatening and even ideas for later messages, believe me this WILL get him fired up like you wouldn't believe.

Definitely go for it at least the once and give it your best shot because once you get beyond the feeling ridiculous stage and the giggling like naughty kids stage you'll realise just how turned on you both are and struggle to even reach second base with a single match before you're tearing each others clothes off.

I just wish we could do it like that more often but I love reserving these conversations for his nights away with work even more. Its a tough call I tell you!

If this really is beyond your comfort zone then definitely go to the effort of simulating it. Create a male profile using random Google pictures and message yourself, again "fake it until you make it" your husband won't care, he WANTS to believe it so it doesn't need to be perfect, just believable and it will drive him (and you very quickly) utterly wild.

Now you've set the tone so to speak you can up it a level (or three)

I've actually amassed a huge variety of props for this next level from selfies with various men friends and gym goers to realistic male manikin hands. (Perfect for Starbucks style *innocent* pictures but this time with a hand on my thigh)

This is purely to raise the bar so to speak, you're not just horny and available in public, but someone has spotted an opening and might be taking full advantage. If you don't have any props for this it's not a problem, neither did I at the beginning but I've been doing this a long time and I know what works for my husband, maybe yours is impatient and wants very little warm up.

Now you have him (and yes, yourself too by now) warmed up so to speak (lol, lets face it, he's been thinking of nothing else the entire time) it's time for things to get spicy and again whilst I've got props for this too they really aren't that necessary. I've got everything from bedding and underwear he doesn't recognise to ultra realistic ejaculating dildos and fake cum, the porn industry really has been a godsend for us virtual hotwives, they fake things more than we do and men don't care about it in the slightest.

Now it's time to let your (and his) imagination really run wild and remember there are zero practical limits here,

Even my alter ego dearest Trillian would baulk at doing these in person but via pictures and a messaging App?

Oh my dearest husband, I'm going to burn this into your very soul my love and you'll adore me for it.

So put any shame you may have in the trash where it belongs because now you're going for the next level of emotive states and the deeper you can plunge this knife the better.

If you think you're going too far with hurting him, too deep into his feelings or just being too damn nasty I can safely say it's about right, having your doubts is entirely normal so check in with him on the other messaging app, just ask "more or less?" and I can guarantee he'll reply "more".

There's a reason the porn industry is the way it is, we're not writing romance novels with two pages of heavy breathing and scented candles here, we're talking children's books with pictures and very few words.

Men get off on things when its 10x reality so take those gloves off and go right for the heart, too much here is just right.

So you don't take facials?

Pic of fake cum running down your face captioned "how do you like my makeup honey?"

Don't let him cum in your mouth?

Pic of a mouthful of fake cum captioned "he didn't warn me at all "

Don't let him creampie you?

Video of dildo pulling out followed by stream of fake cum "just made your bitch pregnant bro"

Hate anal?

Picture of asshole drowned in fake cum "said he didnt want to get me pregnant just yet"

I found this style of "taunting message from a dominant lover" as being the most effective trigger with my husband, but try out a variety, I'm sure that while you'll maybe find favourites you simply won't find one that doesn't work.

Trust me, you want to really hit him as hard as you can with this messaging finale.

Helplessness, jealousy, humiliation, degradation and even betrayal. Every damn primitive emotion ever built into the male brain and hardwired straight to his dick and you'll stop wondering why the messenger app "ding" would send him feral at a funeral.

Now as a couple we find quite a few of the common cuckold humiliation ideas you see online such as cum eating, pegging, feminization or cuckold dick sucking / fucking as complete turn offs, EXCEPT at this stage weirdly where we both find the threat and absolute menace extremely erotic.

Don't ask me how it works but right at this point something like a picture of me face down on the bed in handcuffs with a huge dick in me taken from the bulls point of view and captioned "after your wife you're next"

or

pictures of me wearing a strap-on dildo with the caption "im going to show you just how hard that last guy took me" or similar totally unacceptable (to us) acts are the hottest things ever.

Audio/video, With all this talk about pictures captions and messages its easy to forget the simplest things, now we've all been on booktok and got a touch flustered at the masked man haven't we? That twenty seconds of audio script where this very bad man tells us exactly what he's going to do to us?

Well guess what, it works on guys too so don't miss this trick.

A short breathless message "omg the cable guy is so fucking hot, I'm sorry honey"

"*slightly muffled* sounds of you screaming out an orgasm" with bonus points for "omg, you make me cum so much harder than my husband" after you *accidentally* dialed his voicemail.

If you've never recorded or videoed yourself having sex, now is the time to start. Unless they're perfectly shot it'll be hard to tell who the guy is and I doubt he hears his own recorded voice very often, snip a clip out and send it, send a few. If you can do it from another phone all the better, it'll really have the appearance of being sent by your mysterious lover (and he WANTS to believe it, if he doesn't then what the hell, who doesn't want a clip of the two of you in bed sent on a random Tuesday afternoon?)

Playing with your husbands mind is the most powerful thing you can do as a woman and he wants you to do it so use everything at your disposal here.