Slut and Whore Manifesto

Our pronouns are what we identify as and with. Many people get upset if you use the wrong pronouns when talking to them, but I've earned my pronouns, and I feel that I deserve respect as a Slut and a Whore. I don't care if you remember my name; I care that you remember who I am.

Like someone who has gone through years of college to earn their degree, I've done the same thing. And I made it my life's goal to be someone you'll remember and talk about for years afterward. People will remember you're a doctor if they've come to you for medical help. And someone will recognize you if you've helped design their home, but people remember me for what I did and how I made them feel.

I've earned the right to be called a Slut and a Whore because I have done the work. I take care of myself. I exercise. I talk to people, and I'm very open about who I am. You might know me as Kelly, but your husband knows me as the best piece of ass he's ever had. Sadly, I'm the kind of person people want to know, but they don't want anyone else to know they know me. But I know them!

You might be married to a man or work with men, or even have a crush on a man, but keep in mind that I have probably slept with him or them. There are some pronouns for you, Him, and Them. Using a person's pronouns is showing them respect. And I respect all the Hims and Thems I've slept with. Most of them were pretty good, and others just needed someone to make them feel good. And I was there for them as much as they were there for me.

It's said that using a person's (preferred) pronouns validates them and tells them that they are important to you and that they matter. I don't care how important I am to most people. The only people that matter to me, as far as how they see me, are the men that have sex with me. And they validate me and show me that I matter physically. You can call me anything you want, but actions speak louder than words.

Think about it: if you're a woman and you're with a man- your husband or boyfriend, or even a hookup- and he can't get hard for you, I don't think that says anything about him. I think it says a lot about you. Why can't he get hard for you? I rarely have that problem with men. I can't remember when people didn't call me a Slut or a Whore. And as I've said, I've earned that title.

Women will call other women Sluts and Whores when they feel that they are giving away too much too easily, making it harder for them to attract men, but I've never had a problem attracting men. So, I don't see the problem. Sex is natural and fun, or at least it should be, but so many people look down on people like me. They think by calling me a Slut or a Whore that they are demeaning me or putting me down when, in reality, they are advertising for me.

When women call me a Slut or a Whore, and men are around, it's the men who look and want to know who they are talking about, not because they want to agree with their wife or girlfriend, but because they want to know who they can get with when their wife or girlfriend doesn't put out.

Some people say that Slut and Whore are derogatory terms. I beg to differ. Unless you are a Slut or a Whore, you may not understand what being one entails. You might go down on your man, and he may give you the bone, but how fulfilling are you to him? Does he think of you and remember all the good times, or does he wish you were more like me? You dress up, try to look pretty, and hope to find Mr. Right. I go out knowing I'll find him. And you may have married the man of your dreams, but are you sure you're the one he is thinking about when he "makes love" to you?

I know that men think about their wives and girlfriends when they're with me. And I know they wish they could get what I give them at home, but because their wife or girlfriend is afraid of being what and who I am, their husband or boyfriend loses out, at least at home.

I don't hide that I'm a Slut and a Whore. As I said, I've earned those titles. And it's because I've done what I've had to do, and you can't fake being a Slut or a Whore. Being referred to as someone's wife or girlfriend doesn't say much about you, but being referred to as a Slut or a Whore says all that needs to be said. People may not know your relationship with your husband or boyfriend, but no one ever wonders what my relationship is with them.

Have you ever wondered what people think when they see you with your husband or boyfriend? I know what you'd feel if you saw me with him.

I guess Mrs. is a pronoun. The dictionary defines Mrs. as a title used before a surname or full name to address or refer to a married woman, or a woman who has been married, without a higher or honorific or professional title. Your Honor is an honorific, just as Mrs. is, but using Your Honor is a sign of respect, just like Slut or Whore. You might dress slutty at times, but that doesn't make you a Slut. Slut is a title you have to earn.

Just being called a Slut doesn't mean anything. It just means another woman doesn't like what you've done, no matter how much her husband or boyfriend liked it. And the only time men use the term Slut or Whore, in a derogatory way is if they haven't been with someone like me or dared to do so.

You gladly take on the title of wife or girlfriend because it says to others that you have a man who wants to spend his life with you, but it doesn't tell if you please him or not.

I have met so many married men who are in sexless marriages. And I've been with many boyfriends who've told me they wished their girlfriend was more like me. In a way, being called a wife or girlfriend leaves people wondering, and people never wonder about me when they hear me called a Slut.

There's an old saying, "Women marry for love, and men marry hoping to get sex every night." Sadly, most wives don't get the love they crave, and men rarely get the sex they need. Men may not want to spend their lives with me, but they come to me when they can't get what they need anywhere else.

You might think you control your husband's or boyfriend's emotions, but I have to tell you, if he's been with me and he's with you, and I walk into the room, who do you think has the most control? I do. He's afraid of what you might do or say if you knew what he did and said to me.

When men are with me, they have no fears. They know when they are with me, they can be men, complete men, and they don't have to worry about what I might say or do. They know I do it all.

Why would I want to be a wife or a girlfriend? I've heard it all. "She doesn't do anal." "She doesn't enjoy going down on me." "She doesn't swallow." These are all things I enjoy doing. If I were a wife or girlfriend, I'm not sure I would. I'm the kind of girl you don't take home to mother. I'm a super freak.

If you and I sat down and talked, I'd bet I would know more about you and your man than you do about me. Your man wants sex, and you want love. I love sex. Men look for women like me. They want a woman who does it all. They want a woman they can be a man with unapologetically. You wonder where the man you married went, and I'm the woman he thought and hoped you were. With you, a man has to earn sex. With me, all he has to do is be a man. I win.

When you're a Slut or a Whore, you don't just get to know men. You get to know their life and who they share it with. That means I get to know everything about you, how much you belittle them for being men, how little you respect them because they're men, and how little they get in return for their investment.

I'm not saying that all men are good men, but many aren't getting what they deserve. So many of the men I've been with profess their love for their wives and girlfriends, and they tell me what they want, which is something they know better than to tell you.

They either have been told no, or they have been told it's never going to happen. And that's why they come to women like me. They know women like me want them to be real men, men who don't have to ask or beg for sex. They know they can get it from us just because they want it.

I've learned that men aren't that hard to please. So I say, give me a hard man. How's that saying go? "A good man is hard to find, but a hard man is good to find."

I think an erection looks good on a man, but I have to admit, I want to help him hide it in a dark but warm place. I believe an erection should never be wasted, and too often, women don't even know when their men have one.

Too often, men hide their erections because they don't want to be criticized or asked, "Is that all you think about?" So what if they do? Fuck them! They deserve it!

Slut and Whore are terms only used to define women. Of course, there's Male-Slut or Male-Whore, but, as you can see, there's a signifier. If the terms Slut and Whore weren't terms used to describe certain women, then there would be no need for a signifier. I'm a woman, a Slut, and a Whore, and I do not have a strong or a bad reaction if you don't refer to me as a Slut or a Whore. I'm a Lady as well.

Whether they want to admit it or not, men want to be with women who love and enjoy sex. And they want to be with women who don't ask a lot of questions. They want a woman willing to let them be a man by being a woman. And that's me.

If you call me by my name, or Lady, or Slut, or Whore, I'll answer. I don't get freaked out if you don't call me a Slut or a Whore. Not everyone needs to know everything about me, but I don't care if they do.

I do get pissed off when someone calls someone a Slut or a Whore when they haven't or don't give it up. A big part of being a Slut or a Whore is being open and available, especially sexually. So, in this way, I say yes, you better use the correct pronoun if you're going to use one to imply that someone is a Slut or a Whore.

There's nothing worse than being wrongly labeled by someone. It doesn't help the woman you are calling a Slut or a Whore, and it surely doesn't help a man or men get laid by the same person. One cannot simply be called a Slut or a Whore. Slut and Whore are titles you earn.

You can't just call someone a pilot and expect them to fly a plane. They have to earn that title. They have to prove they have what it takes and the knowledge to go with it. The same applies to Sluts and Whores.

You either are a Slut or a Whore, or you're not. Although you can be both a Slut and a Whore, you can't be kind of a Slut or kind of a Whore. Being a Slut or a Whore takes commitment, and there's no in-between.

No self-respecting Slut or Whore would want anyone to think of or call them "kind of". We've earned our titles, and we deserve respect at least for that. Personal gender identity may differ from biological sex, and it can't be seen by others. The same applies to Sluts and Whores. Unless we're on our backs with our legs spread, you're probably not going to assume we're sluts. And you shouldn't. That could go bad quickly. Instead, unless you know that someone is a Slut or a Whore, you might want to refrain from calling someone by that label unless you know for sure. Even then, I'd be cautious if I were you.

Although we may be Sluts and Whores, we're still people. We pay taxes like everyone else. We just have a lot more fun. As far as being gender-inclusive, we Sluts and Whores don't care what you identify as. If you're fun, honest, and like to have adult fun, that's all that matters. I'll sleep with a woman as quickly as I will a man. And I've even been with some people who had both men's and women's parts. And we had fun.

People who are gender non-conforming don't identify with constructed masculine and feminine norms, and neither do Sluts or Whores. If you want us to be dominant, we'll be dominant. If you want us to be submissive, we'll be submissive. We don't care if we top or bottom, as long as we're having fun. Suppose you're a woman and want to try being with a woman, yay! Let's play and get to know each other. If you're a man and you want to be pegged, okay! Bend over, buddy!

Sluts and Whores are a social gender of sorts. We like people, most people. We don't like jerks or assholes. And we're easy to approach. We don't care what you identify as or do for a living. We want to have fun, which shouldn't be something you down someone for. We can be alone, but we prefer not to be. We like to be with people and for people to be with us. We don't care if you can't or don't want to tell your wife, girlfriend, or friends about us. We understand.

Getting good sex from someone who wants to have sex with you is something you want to keep secret. Right? I think that's the saddest part about being a Slut or a Whore, knowing the people you often hook up with go home feeling guilty that they had a good time. Well, probably not that they had a good time, but who they had a good time with.

It's almost like if everyone knows you like to read D. C. comics, and then they find out you read a Marvel comic. Oh, the horror! What's so terrible about enjoying sex with someone your best friend enjoyed a week ago? We'll tell each other about movies we've seen and enjoyed. We brag about climbing the same mountains other people have already climbed. But we can't brag about having incredible sex with someone other people have sex with? Why not? Oh, yeah. Society.

No one is advocating for Sluts or Whores. No political party is fighting for our right to be seen and accepted. Nope. We're Sluts and Whores. Although we don't have a pride day, week, or month, we're still a proud bunch. Okay. Yes, we have the Slut Walk.

DePaul University law professor Deborah Tuerkheimer argues that the "rise of sex-positivity," as she calls it, is "the most significant feminist initiative in decades." The Slutwalk event was inspired by a Canadian policeman who said that "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized." My question is, how can you rape the willing?

I went to one of these Slutwalks, and I was disappointed. An older man was watching a few women at a microphone, and one of them looked at him and yelled, "What the hell are you looking at?" She was wearing fishnet stockings, short shorts, and had saggy tits. What did she think he was looking at, and why was she so pissed off?

I have a good body. I'm a size four. I'm five foot seven inches tall, and I have a firm C cup. The woman who yelled at the man at the Slutwalk was a bigger girl. She may have been a Slut, but she made the rest of us look bad.

If you're a Slut, why were you pissed that a man was looking at you? You're in a park with your saggy tits out, and you don't expect men to look? I'd be more concerned with your saggy tits than someone looking at them.

As a Slut and a Whore, I like men looking at me. I prefer having sex with men, but you have to start somewhere. Oh. Okay. A man looking at you is visual sexual violence. What a load of crap!

I've been with married men who told me they couldn't have sex with their wives because she might accuse them of spousal rape. What the hell? She's your wife, and you're her husband. Shouldn't you two be having sex? Yes! You should.

What has this world come to? Your wife isn't in the mood, and you want sex, so that's coercion or rape if you have sex with her. That's bullshit. Many women don't even know they want sex until it's already happening.

I'm always hearing about how aggressive men are. When you're a Slut or a Whore, you learn better. Sure, some men are aggressive, and I wish more were. Most men have been so wussified. They're afraid of getting an erection because someone might see it and ridicule them for it. I say if you have a massive erection, stand proud! Men are so afraid of getting sex these days, and that's sad. Sex is supposed to be fun, not scary.

I can't count the times when a guy has said he'd show up, but at the last moment, he cancels or says later that he fell asleep. How does a guy fall asleep when he knows he will get laid? He doesn't. If a guy isn't getting sex and gets the chance to have sex, I'd think he'd be there with bells on. But most men today are afraid of women and their own desires.

Everything is violence anymore. And masculinity is looked down upon. I like men who can be men. And I want men to be men with me. Take me. Ravage me! Do me! Damn it! The sight of a woman's naked body and open legs should enact an erection, not inhibit it.

I've always said, you can't rape the willing. And anymore, even someone saying you look sexy is violence. That's bullshit! When a guy says I look sexy, I say, "Damn right I do!" As a woman, you should be proud that you can get men to look at you. Not every woman gets that. Being sexy is part of being a woman, and if you're married, it should be your top priority.

How can you call yourself a wife if your man isn't getting sex? And the same applies if you are a man and your wife isn't getting sex with you. We're all sexual beings. Now act like it.

I've said before that I'd earned the titles Slut and Whore. And I have. I can't remember a time when I didn't want and enjoy sex. I've always liked the touch of others, especially men. To me, sex is what everyone wants, but are too afraid to ask for it or do it. Of course, people have sex, but nothing else has such a stigma as sex does.

I don't care if you're black or white or purple. If you're human, I can enjoy you. You can be tall, short, big, or small. I don't care as long as you're fun. I don't see sex as a bad thing. I think sex is what keeps you young. You go to the gym, and I lie back and enjoy. Sex can be a lot of fun, not always, but it is most of the time. And if you're not doing it, I wonder why.

As adults, sex is something we can do for fun. You play tennis or golf or watch football on TV. I have sex as often as possible. I'm not looking for validation of who I am. I just want to have fun. And sex is fun for me.

I don't judge you for liking to hike or play baseball. And it would be nice if you didn't see me having sex as a bad thing. I can understand if you are a wife or girlfriend and your husband or boyfriend has sex with me and not you, but it takes two to tango.

Too many people out there want sex and can't or don't get any, or they don't get the sex they want. I give that to them. I'm a Slut and a Whore because I feel there's a need for women like me. People want to have sex, sometimes weird sex, and that's okay. I like almost all of it. I can't say I fully understand choking, but if that's what you're into...

I'm not reclaiming the words Slut or Whore. That's what I am. I love sex. I love men, and I love to have fun. I'm like all the Disney rides tied into one. I'm the slow ride for the timid and the roller coaster for the more adventurous. If I'm going to be honest, I'm a Slut and a Whore because not enough women are.